To be brave, take the driving seat

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Be brave – own up to your fears, take control and stay in the driving seat

We all know that to be the best we can be we need to be brave and lead courageously. We’ve heard this many times and yet it doesn’t always feel easy to do.

Face your fears

To be brave we need to own up to our fears and move forward despite them. 

Here’s a simple exercise to deal with fear – instead of fighting to eliminate them, give fear a seat on your journey. But beware, fear must stay in the back seat of your car, or better still, leave fear in the car boot.

The first step in achieving your big goals is to address what’s holding you back.

So here is your August challenge:

  1. Admit you are scared
  2. Validate your feelings of fear
  3. Name your fear
  4. Accept you are in a vulnerable position
  5. Carefully place fear away from you – it is there but you are not paying attention to it
  6. If fear has a voice, turn the volume down, or better still, mute the sound
  7. Focus on ways you can be in control
  8. Stay in the driving seat at all times

Let me know how you get on with this powerful exercise, the challenges you faced and the fears you moved to the back seat.  

If you admit your fears but don’t allow them to control your actions, you will be taking your first steps towards playing big.

If you’d like to find new ways to make sure you operate at the top of your game and smash your targets by the end of this year, find out about the Best You 1:1 programme starting this autumn.

Spaces are limited so schedule an initial discovery call for more details and to find out how we can move forward together.

How to make this summer your most revealing one yet

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The sunshine has been putting a smile on your face and a spring in your step… Don’t we all love the liberating feeling of flip flop wearing and al fresco dining?

What I like about holidays is the freedom to be more myself. I reconnect with the real me, which leads me to thinking: how can I be the real me all year round?

It takes hard work and a touch of bravery to reconnect with our true selves. We spend a great deal of time wearing different hats, trying to fit into the roles we’ve been given or the roles we have chosen. How does it feel when we remove these hats and reveal our true selves? It can be a liberating and enlightening process.

Access the calm, happy you

The hard part is allocating time for precious headspace, aka “me time”. Summer holidays are an ideal time to make this extra effort as we’ve already physically stepped away from our normal routine.

For some, it might mean taking a long walk on the beach or in the woods to access your unfiltered desires and needs. For me, listening to Bossa Nova Brazilian sambas gets me to a calm, happy mood and slowly shifts my energy towards the more authentic me. What would it take for you to access the real you?

Find your secret powers and your path to exceptional growth

By being more you, you can tap into your secret powers that will allow your strengths to rise to the fore and put you on the path for exceptional growth.

Secret powers are not exclusive to superheroes, they are simply the things we are good at. We all have them – we just need to access our true selves to find them.

How can you find your super powers?

Think of your biggest achievements, or moments in your life that made you smile or feel proud – what triggers those moments? These feelings of achievement and pride show up when we know that our unique mix of skills, viewpoints and methodologies have got the results we desired.

Think of the things that excite you, whether that’s ideas, people, movies or music, and make a note of these. Can you see a common thread within what you are most attracted to?

Are you attracted to honest, genuine, down-to-earth people who have worked hard? If so, this will reveal that you value hard work, honesty and integrity. This way, you start to pay attention to your own value system, to guide you forward to a destination that feels right.

This process is an intensely personal one, and there are no quick fix solutions for personal growth, but here are a few guiding exercises you can try this summer.

  1. Pay attention to what gets you excited and energised. Listen out for physical sensations in your body that you get when you are motivated.
  2. Once you know what excites you, this will help drive you forward. Recognising your key drivers is a powerful experience. Rest with these for a while – this is also a good one to try while snoozing in your hammock.
  3. Consider simple ways to inject elements of what excites you into your daily work-life. Talk about these or think about them while taking a morning walk.
  4. Once you’ve identified these small steps, test them out slowly until you notice a mindset shift or behavioural change.
  5. When you start seeing the positive impact from these small changes, step them up and strive higher.
  6. Set timelines and identify the critical milestones on your roadmap.

If you take the extra time to reconnect with your super powerful self, you will put yourself on the path to experience personal growth like never before. You’ll be braver and more bold and set your goals higher, with the knowledge that you can do it.

Do you need to step back from the daily grind ensure you are on track with your personal goals?
Do you want to excel and operate at your highest level all year round?

I am offering a one-off opportunity to a small group of driven and entrepreneurial leaders to join my new Resilience coaching programme starting this autumn.

Spaces are limited so schedule an initial discovery call to get more details and to find out how we could move forward together.

 

 

How can we learn the most valuable life skill: Positive Thinking?

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I recently read that the rate of suicide has gone up by 50% in the past 10 years, with a sharp increase in teenage suicides.

This alarming statistic has kept me awake at night as I try to work out how and why we have been so poor at injecting positive thinking into our education system, work culture and society at large.

More importantly, how can we nurture our powerful social media channels to ensure they have a positive impact?

It’s easy to point the finger of blame on the wizardry of technology and its harsh side effects – after all, we are now monitoring other people’s lives constantly.

Take Facebook, which now has 2.19 billion monthly active users. 70% of users say they use Facebook daily, including 45% who do so several times a day. Another amazing Facebook statistic shows that 50% of 18-24-year-old users log in as soon as they wake up.

As a result we compare our lives to others, are bombarded with news 24/7 and hear more details on the world’s problems than ever before.

We have become hyper-dependent on feedback and the numbers of likes we get on our posts, images and photos.

We feel a constant sense of battling against the perceived shortcomings of our lives and we certainly worry about the lack of solutions offered to resolve the BIG problems that affect us.

Wouldn’t it be better if we could spend more time and energy focusing on the solutions going forward? In a hyper-connected, hyper-aware, hyper-informed world haven’t we developed the optimal environment to collaborate, work together and move forward in a more positive way?

Social media channels have made it so much easier to start campaigns, to shout our views out loud, to disrupt and promote change – this fills me with optimism for the future.

However a dark cloud still lurks above our heads – the responsibility lies with us as leaders, as parents and as educators. It’s up to us to prioritise the power of positive thinking. I certainly was never taught this at school.

Here are some of the basics for developing a positive mindset:

1.    Foster a positive attitude
An optimistic outlook is a mental state that can be developed by practising it as a daily habit. It’s about expecting the best to happen and not letting negative thoughts and doubts smash your positive beliefs. We can train our brain to think positively in the same way as we can train our body to run faster.

2.     Encourage active experimentation
In a fast-paced, dynamic world where change happens rapidly, it is useful to focus on action and try out possible solutions. It is better to try, fail and learn than not to try at all.

3.     Promote creative thinking
Don’t be afraid to look at new ways of doing things, innovating and injecting fun and play into your work.

4.     Nurture your innate motivation
This is about tapping into your energy and paying attention to what excites you and what you care about most.

5.     Keep the end goal in mind to feed your inner resilience
Welcome knock-backs as part and parcel of the lessons on the path to winning.

How do you keep positive? I’d love to hear your motivations and thoughts on this issue.

Does your positive mindset need a boost? If you would like to work with me on nurturing your positive mindset, book your FREE 30-minute discovery call today.